Have you ever pretended to be someone you weren’t? Perhaps when you were chatting someone up you made out you had a glamorous sounding job rather than your mundane one?
Or maybe you like to take on a character to liven up a boring workday?
Some people get a real buzz out of pretending to be someone they’re not during sex. It might be just to think of characteristics of someone they admire – for example an outspoken celebrity – and then to act like that person in bed. Or they may role-play a historical, fantasy, or famous character.
You could lead a double life playing with gender, your age, sexuality, or power games.
And in some cases people find themselves caught up in a double life when they’re having an affair – deceiving their long-term partner and their lover.
The problem is when we think ‘double life’ we tend to associate it with lies and cheating.
However taking on a character – either just emulating general characteristics, or going further and going into role play can add a new angle to your (love) life as well as give you the confidence to try new things.
We explored these issues and more this morning on BBC 5 Live’s ‘Up All Night’ sex phone in.
We were joined by Tracy Quan who talked about her book ‘Diary of a Manhattan Call Girl’ that details the double life of an engaged woman who works as a high class escort behind her fiancé’s back.
Many people who work in sex-related occupations find compartmentalising their lives or moving within different characters can help them manage their different roles. I love trying on new characters aside from Dr Petra. My favourites include a prima-donna burlesque dancer called Miss Mimi Rose Petals, Kitten Caboodle – a try-anything-once-tart-with-a-heart, and ‘Rebecca’ – a house-proud housewife who likes nothing better than to pop on a pinny and get stuck in.
So long as I keep them all separate and Dr Petra doesn’t annoy Rebecca with her slovenly behaviour and Kitten doesn’t attend any family functions, then all is fine.
Try it this weekend. Think of someone you’ve always wanted to be, or one or more characters you’d like to try on and see what happens!
Double Life
Have you ever pretended to be someone you weren’t? Perhaps when you were chatting someone up you made out you had a glamorous sounding job rather than your mundane one?
Or maybe you like to take on a character to liven up a boring workday?
Some people get a real buzz out of pretending to be someone they’re not during sex. It might be just to think of characteristics of someone they admire – for example an outspoken celebrity – and then to act like that person in bed. Or they may role-play a historical, fantasy, or famous character.
You could lead a double life playing with gender, your age, sexuality, or power games.
And in some cases people find themselves caught up in a double life when they’re having an affair – deceiving their long-term partner and their lover.
The problem is when we think ‘double life’ we tend to associate it with lies and cheating.
However taking on a character – either just emulating general characteristics, or going further and going into role play can add a new angle to your (love) life as well as give you the confidence to try new things.
We explored these issues and more this morning on BBC 5 Live’s ‘Up All Night’ sex phone in.
We were joined by Tracy Quan who talked about her book ‘Diary of a Manhattan Call Girl’ that details the double life of an engaged woman who works as a high class escort behind her fiancé’s back.
Many people who work in sex-related occupations find compartmentalising their lives or moving within different characters can help them manage their different roles. I love trying on new characters aside from Dr Petra. My favourites include a prima-donna burlesque dancer called Miss Mimi Rose Petals, Kitten Caboodle – a try-anything-once-tart-with-a-heart, and ‘Rebecca’ – a house-proud housewife who likes nothing better than to pop on a pinny and get stuck in.
So long as I keep them all separate and Dr Petra doesn’t annoy Rebecca with her slovenly behaviour and Kitten doesn’t attend any family functions, then all is fine.
Try it this weekend. Think of someone you’ve always wanted to be, or one or more characters you’d like to try on and see what happens!
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