January 18th, 2006
Anyone who grew up in the UK in the 1970s will remember the classic holiday kids television show ‘Why don’t you’. It made such an impact on me that even though we didn’t have a television I still remember it.
The aim of the show was to show children watching at home that there were more interesting things to do than watch TV.
And now it seems this programme was far ahead of its time because new research suggests that couples who have a television set in the bedroom have sex half as often as those who don’t.
The study of 523 Italians showed those without TV had sex eight times per month; those with a TV in the bedroom had sex about four times a month. Participants aged over 50 indicated even more marked responses – those without TV had sex around seven times per month, those with a TV around 1.5 times.
Those with a TV in the bedroom report an average amount of sex – four times a month is what most people support in reliable sex surveys. But perhaps that finding is due to them having a TV at home!
The study also showed that it wasn’t just TV being on that interrupted sex. Certain TV programmes were more likely to be passion killers – violent films and reality TV were most likely to kill desire for 1/3 couples.
The study is interesting, although it doesn’t seem to measure satisfaction. It might be those who watch more TV and have less sex are still very happy with their sex lives. Perhaps those without a TV have sex to pass the time?! We simply don’t know. We can’t conclude amount of sex equals satisfaction – just because you have lots of sex doesn’t mean you like it or it’s good sex.
But what we do know from this study and other anecdotal evidence is that the TV does get in the way of relationships. Couples frequently have the TV on as background, or spend evenings in front of the TV without talking to each other or enjoying each other’s company.
You may find if you cut down on your TV viewing you may spend more quality time with your partner – chatting, reading, listening to music, sharing stories about your day, cuddling – the choice is yours. And if you do that you might find you feel more positive towards each other that in turn will lead to you being more willing to have sex.
Which means I’ll have to look into giving up my nightly fix of Law and Order.
Or as they used to sing on that classic 70s kids TV show.
“Why Don’t You Just Switch Off Your Television Set And Go Out And Do Something Less Boring Instead?”