The following sets of questions are about your sex life and are designed to help you identify what you are happy with, and what, if anything, bothers you.

Because the questions are about sex, some are very personal. You may want to use your answers to think about your sex life or talk about sex with your partner. If you need sex or relationship advice, your answers can help you get started in a conversation with a GP or a sex/relationship therapist.

Print this page out, then tick whether you agree with, disagree with, or are uncertain about each statement. Some of the questions have several parts to them. If you agree with any part of the question, then tick ‘agree’.

		Agree	Disagree	Uncertain
1	I don’t know how to talk about my sex life
2	I would like to know more about sex and how my body works
3	I’m not sure if my partner understands me
4	I’d like to know more about how to avoid getting pregnant or catching a sexually transmitted disease
5	I feel embarrassed or self-conscious about my body
6	I have sexual fantasies and thoughts that worry me
7	I feel my view of sex doesn’t fit in with what rest of my community, or my friends and family believe
8	I’m too tired and busy for sex because of family or work commitments

		Agree	Disagree	Uncertain
1	I avoid my partner because I am afraid of them, or because they have been mean to me
2	My partner and I can’t agree on how often to have sex
3	I don’t know how to tell my partner what I want in bed
4	I’m not happy with my partner because of a problem between us (e.g. money arguments or a death of a child)
5	My partner has a medical or sexual problem that affects our sex life

		Agree	Disagree	Uncertain
1	In the past I was abused (physically, sexually or emotionally)
2	I have problems with getting attached to someone, or find being rejected a problem
3	I feel depressed or anxious
4	I’m scared sex may be painful, or that I might get pregnant, catch a sexually transmitted infection, or get a bad reputation

		Agree	Disagree	Uncertain
1	I have health problems that affect my body, such as diabetes, heart disease or MS
2	I’m pregnant, have a sexually transmitted infection, or have a diagnosed sexual problem
3	I am taking prescription medication
4	I have thrush, or a urinary tract infection
5	I smoke or drink heavily, or use recreational drugs

Thank you for printing this out.

If your answers make you think you have a sexual problem, you may wish to talk to your GP or sex/relationship therapist.

If answering any of these questions has upset you or raised issues for you, remember to tell your doctor.
You can also find links to support agencies here

Please remember, answering these questions is no substitute for medical care or counselling.
Consult your doctor or therapist if you need further support or advice.

If you have any questions, comments or feedback about the SLI,
feel free to email me at info@drpetra.co.uk

Please note that I cannot give sex or relationship advice via email.